1:39 – from enemies to best mates.

6:12 – there is nothing noble about being harmless.

7:06 – avoiding or engaging with conflict.

7:27 – what makes a leader?

8:50 – good leadership looks different in different contexts.

11:40 – the leadership style in the military.

12:59 – how values and beliefs impact team performance.

15:12 – navigating the conflicts that arise from having a diverse team.

15:35 – definition of leadership.

16:30 – diversity is contextual. What are you trying to achieve?

18:43 – are you trying to be right or correct?

20:36 – leaders represent people authentically in forums where they cannot represent themselves.

22:18 – trying to be right disengages people around you.

23:41 – it’s better to lose the battle and keep the relationship, especially with your kids.

25:07 – extreme ownership and admitting mistakes.

27:28 – where the name Eighth Mile Consulting came from.

29:18 – owning our mistakes turns our weakness into a strength.

31:39 – owning your faults increases your credibility and your ability to influence.

32:55 – steelman and strawman debating tactics.

36:01 – influence starts by listening, not speaking.

38:14 – it takes discipline to shut up and listen.

41:55 – I don’t have time to listen.

44:02 – why boundaries give more freedom.

52:14 – boundaries with children.

54:46 – just do what makes you happy is terrible advice.

56:46 – the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.

58:18 – sometimes leaders only have bad options to choose from.

1:00:14 – leadership is not about you.

1:02:44 – a leader’s reputation is their influence.

1:06:1 – making an unpopular decision that you believe will be best for the long term.

1:10:49 – reputation is based on your character but not fully in your own control.

1:12:57 – how to become more self-aware as leaders.

1:15:30 – everyone is a leader.

1:16:11 – how to create a safe space for people to speak up.

1:18:55 – empathy saved the world.

1:24:7 – our ego can be our greatest enemy.

1:26:12 – connect with David Neal.”

 

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